Jewelry shopping can be intimidating. That’s why we started Ask Holden, our blog where we answer your FAQs, break down scary industry lingo, and guide you in finding the perfect piece of jewelry.
One thing couples ask us all the time is: should we wear matching wedding bands? For some, it’s a headache: not only do I have to choose between a matte finish or a mirrored one for my band, but I now have to put my head together with my spouse-to-be and see what *their* opinion is? Other couples are psyched about the prospect of wearing matching rings. But is there a rule about whether bridal wedding ring sets or matching wedding bands are a must?
The short answer is: of course you don’t have to match if you don’t want to! We promise, rings are a symbol of your love, regardless of what they look like - or whether or not they match. Trust us when we say: matching wedding bands don’t make you and your partner a better match for each other! You’re a perfect match already.
If you decide that you do prefer to match your wedding bands in some manner, you have many options. Of course, there’s the option to go for the theoretical gold (or platinum!) and get identical rings (properly sized for your fingers, of course!). But of course, you could choose to match in a multitude of ways. Read on for some suggestions.
A quick note: some jewelers choose to offer a matching wedding band set that is already coordinated between the two rings. Here at Holden, instead of pre-made bridal wedding ring sets, we offer fully customizable wedding bands available in every size and style. This way, instead of offering rings specifically designated for men and women, we offer all rings for all genders. Pick your favorite and design your custom wedding ring set together!
Matching Metals in Wedding Band Sets
One way you could choose to coordinate your rings is by picking the same metal. This is probably the most common way our couples match their rings. Maybe you both want your rings to be yellow gold, but you choose contrasting styles, such as an eternity band for one of you and the Faceted Profile for the other. Another option is to match karat itself - perhaps you and your partner both want 14k gold because you met in 2014 (cute!), but you prefer white gold and they want rose gold. You’re still matching!
By the way, if you’re curious as to what materials we use for our wedding bands and why we choose not to offer sterling silver or tungsten wedding bands, check out our post on how to pick the best metal for your wedding band.
Above Image: The Hammered paired with The Stepped, both in 14k white gold
Matching Ring Profiles
If you and your partner want to wear rings in the same style (such as two Half Eternity Profiles), there are still ways to customize the rings based on your personal preferences. Perhaps one of you chooses it in rose gold and the other in white gold. Another option would be to go for varying widths depending on how you want the rings to look on your respective fingers.
Complementary Profiles for Matching Wedding Bands
If you and your partner are both looking for something geometric, perhaps you could each pick a ring that gives a nice nod to Pythagoras - like The Octagon and The Triangle: don’t be obtuse, I think you’re acute and we fit together like...right angles, baby! Or something like that, we took geometry a long time ago.
We sort our rings by collections (not gender), which can be a helpful tool for you when trying to find coordinating rings. For example, you and your partner could check out our diamond collection to see if there are two styles of diamond rings that suit you - remember, diamonds can be anyone’s best friend! Pictured below is a diamond set of coordinating rings we made custom for a couple.
What About My Engagement Ring?
If you’re planning to wear an engagement ring and wedding band, you have even more coordination opportunities! Perhaps your partner has chosen not to wear an engagement ring (although we’ve gotta say, we do love the idea of partners of all genders wearing engagement rings!), but they might want to have matching wedding bands by adding a small flush diamond to their wedding band. Or maybe your engagement ring is made of rose gold, so your partner chooses a rose gold wedding band to match you.
Can I Custom Make a Wedding Band Set?
Absolutely. If you and your partner are looking for unique matching wedding bands, we can definitely create the custom wedding ring set of your dreams. Pictured below is one of our all-time favorite custom wedding ring set designs - when the couple’s rings are placed together, they form their initials.
Got any other questions about matching wedding bands, custom wedding ring sets or bridal wedding ring sets for couples - or perhaps an idea about a custom design you and your partner are dreaming about? Feel free to send us an email at help@hiholden.com, and someone on our design team can help you out!
Questions? Give us a shout at help@hiholden.com or a ring (pun intended) at 646.722.6817.
FAQs
1. Do couples have to wear matching wedding bands?
Nope! There are no rules. Some couples love the idea of matching wedding bands, while others prefer individual styles. It’s all about what feels right for you.
2. What are matching wedding bands for couples?
Matching wedding bands for couples are rings designed to coordinate in metal, style, or symbolic meaning — sometimes identical, sometimes simply complementary.
3. What’s the difference between bridal wedding ring sets and custom wedding ring sets?
Bridal wedding ring sets are usually pre-designed to include an engagement ring and wedding band. Custom wedding ring sets allow you and your partner to co-create every detail of the bands together.
4. Can we personalize our wedding bands with a custom design?
Absolutely. At Holden, we specialize in creating custom wedding ring sets, from special engravings to meaningful shapes or diamonds that represent your love story.
5. How do we design a custom matching wedding band set?
Start by browsing our ring styles. Choose shared elements like metal or profile, or personalize everything from width to finish. Our team will help you bring your dream wedding band set to life.
6. Are matching wedding bands more expensive?
Not necessarily. Pricing depends on metal type, width, and other customizations. Matching or not, Holden offers fair, transparent pricing for all our wedding band sets.
7. Can we get matching rings in different sizes and styles?
Yes! Every Holden ring is available in all sizes and styles — our matching wedding bands are for all couples, regardless of gender or preference.
About Holden
A ring should be more than pretty—it should say something about who you are and what you stand for. Holden offers engagement rings and wedding rings that reflect personal style and shared values. Choose the quiet confidence of our Classic collection, the individuality of Multi-Stone styles, or the intimacy of a Center Stone Solitaire.